Confidence is an important trait for all human beings. It allows us to communicate with others, overcome hurdles and generally just believe in ourselves. Children are not born with natural confidence, it’s something that they must develop as they grow. Parents can help, of course, with the following advice from a junior school in Kent.
Teach Them How To Deal With Setbacks
When your child is little, they will experience a lot of setbacks. For instance, they might fall and scrape a knee, they might have arguments with friends and they might fail a test a school. The way they (and you) respond to these setbacks will determine how they deal with future problems. For instance, if you are hard on them for failing a test, they will not be able to approach the next test with confidence as they will feel too much pressure and anxiety. With that said, it’s important to try and teach your child that mistakes will always be made and problems will arise throughout life. The important thing is that we learn from these mistakes and move forward in a positive way. So, rather than punishing your child for failing that test, let them know that you are proud of them regardless and that you are really pleased that they put in so much effort. Remind them that now they know which areas they should work on in order to improve next time. This will improve their confidence as well as helping them prepare for their exams.
Allow Them Some Independence
Try and let your child have some independence; they need to develop the confidence to solve problems and make decisions without leaning on you. It may be difficult to see your child becoming less and less dependent on you, but if you don’t let this happen they will struggle in their teenage years and even in adulthood. You can help your child become more independent by encouraging them to carry out basic tasks on a regular basis. This could be taking the dog for a walk without you or simply setting the table each evening before dinner. Don’t interfere and let them know how well they did once they’re finished. As they get older, you can make these tasks more and more challenging. This will help them learn that they can do anything they set their mind to, even without your help.
Encourage Them To Try New Things
Encourage your child to get involved with lots of different things and meet new people. A lack of confidence sometimes stems from fear of the unknown and becoming too complacent. With this in mind, it might be worth encouraging your child to join an extra-curricular activity so that they can make new friends with likeminded people whom they otherwise might not have met. However, even something simple like cooking a new recipe will help broaden their horizons. Essentially, the trick is to show them that trying new things isn’t as scary as it first seems.
Summary
Raising a confident child not only benefits their mental health but also helps develop social skills that will help them throughout their life.
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