Always Look For The Helpers

Today has not been a good day.

This morning as I left for work I was greeted with a smashed window on my car. Some unsavoury person had broken into my car to steal my handbag. My handbag that contained everything I need on a daily basis. My purse, my diary, my blog planner, my glasses, kids toys, notes from school, my favourite mascara, plus things I haven’t even remembered were in there… all gone.

This led to a day of ringing the police, ringing our insurers, cancelling credit cards, sweeping up glass and trying to get our window replaced.

It’s hard not to let something like this get to you. The shock turned to misery which then turned to anger. How dare they? How dare they smash my window and help themselves to MY belongings. How dare they shatter glass all over my children’s carseats and toys. How dare they be so inconsiderate, selfish and cruel?

My immediate reaction was to blame myself. How stupid I was to leave my handbag in the car. I got home late last night after taking the boys to karate and picking up some shopping. I chased all three kids into the house, grabbed the shopping, locked the car and forgot all about my handbag sitting on display on the passenger seat. How could I have been so careless?

It took my husband one look at my wobbling bottom lip to give me a hug and tell me it wasn’t my fault. I wasn’t too blame. THEY were to blame. The ones who smashed my window and stole from me. They are at fault.

My husband was right and it was another thing to feel angry about. How dare they make me blame myself?

I have spent most of the day fizzing with anger and it isn’t a nice feeling. I am feisty and I’m happy to speak my mind, but I also prefer to see the lighter side of a situation. I’d rather find the funnier side of a scenario and I hate wasting my time worrying. However, this was a feeling I couldn’t shake. I swung from being tearful to being fuelled by fury.

It is only now that I sit back that I can finally seem to lift myself out of that darkness. It’s been a long day but now I can realise that there ARE good people in the world.

There’s a quote by Fred Rogers which is a favourite of mine for helping the children in times of awful news.

“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.”

The terror attacks in Manchester, so close to us, hit my eldest son hard. He couldn’t comprehend how there could be such evil in the world. Could any of us? I used Rogers’ quote as a way to help him find the positive even in the bleakest of times.

This evening I’m chosing to focus on the helpers:

The complete stranger who rang me to say she had found my diary dumped in a nearby field and found my mobile number inside. She rang to ask whether I would like to collect it. When I did pop round she told me she assumed it had been thrown by someone and so continued to look for other belongings as she walked her dog. She didn’t need to do any of this, but she did, and I was so grateful to just get something back.

Our neighbour who after seeing the mess our car was in, came out to see if we were OK.

My parents who offered to have all three kids for the day tomorrow, so I can go to work to replace the time I lost not being able to go in today.

Our kids, who despite their young age, knew there was something wrong and have behaved so well today while we got everything sorted.

My husband, who rather than lecture me about my own stupidity, gave me that much needed hug and support.

Yes, people suck. There are some terrible, evil, selfish cretins breathing the same oxygen as us and it’s so easy to let that anger take over.

I’m choosing to remember the kindness and goodness in people. For every mean spirited person, there are a million kind hearted people to eclipse them.


The Pramshed


  1. I am so sorry you have had such a rotten time of it. You are not at fault. You are not stupid. People do bad things for a whole range of reasons often when hurting themselves to be honest. But onwards and upwards and you are strong because in so little time you reflected on the positives in life and yes there are some amazing people out there always happy to lend a helping hand. Pay it forward is what I say when one crosses your path and if we all do that the world would be a fabulous place. #BloggerClubUK

  2. So sorry lovely, I agree you should always look for the helpers too. Its just so damn hard to see past all the naff at times though isnt it!

  3. I’m so sorry that you bag got stolen – there are some horrible people in the world! I think concentrating on the helpers sounds like a good idea 🙂

  4. I’m so sorry to hear you were robbed like that! I’d have been cross too. We live in an area where we don’t lock our doors, so I can’t imagine how stressful it must be to live somewhere where people rob you like that!

  5. I’m so sorry to hear what a terrible day you had, it’s lovely that you have looked at all the kind people that are still in this world.

  6. What a horrible thing to go through. Sadly there are some lying and rotten scumbags out there who will stoop to get their hands on someone else’s possessions. You should not blame yourself at all.

  7. What a horrid thing to happen and your right it’s not your fault but it must be tough on you. So glad small glimmers if kindness were seen and you can move on stronger xx

  8. So sorry for what you had to go through, what an awful thing! But thank God for your supportive family, that really makes or breaks the situation, it is NOT your fault and you shoulder blame yourself x

  9. Sometimes things happen that really make me question the world we live in. You’re so right, you have to look for the helpers. They definitely restore faith xx

  10. Such a lovely sentiment and a beautiful viewpoint. I remember during the London Riots the folk who rocked up with brooms to sweep the mess. I’m going to look for the helpers xx
    Thanks for linking to #coolmumclub

  11. Oh that is such a crappy thing for someone to do to you especially seeing the kids use the car too. Glad there were some lovely people about to help you though, and yes always look for the helpers xx

  12. I’m so sorry that this has happened to you. It’s absolutely not your fault at all, just as others have said. It’s a complete disgrace that people in the world would actually do this. Who gives them the right to take from someone else! We should be able to leave anything in our cars and not worry about if someone may or may not take it. Looking for the helpers is such a good idea. There are definitely good people out there and they make such a difference. Thank you for sharing with the #DreamTeam. I hope your feeling ok xx

  13. I am sorry to hear this 🙁 hat hearing this kind of news. There are so many nasty people out there who think robbing off others is acceptable. Hope you are ok, certainly not your fault sweets xx

  14. We all know there’s some awful people out there but let’s all remember the good people out there is this weather.

  15. Oh no Jen how awful! I’m so sorry to read this. A person’s handbag is literally like a 5th limb and the idea of someone taking it is just horrifying. How dare they? I love the way that you’ve chosen to look at this though and it says a lot about what a lovely person you are. Here’s to the helpers. Thanks for linking to #DreamTeam x

  16. Sorry to hear this happened to you, but a lovely take on. I love that Fred Rogers quote. It’s very powerful and encourages me to focus on what matters – the good people – rather than the bad stuff

  17. Awful thing to happen to you. But I love your positivity, you’re very right- things like that remind us of the lovely people we had in our lives. And you’re totally right about kids behaving better etc they are so incredible, even at a young age, at realising when something has happened and they need to up their game and behave.

  18. Oh dear I would have been so so upset as well! What a horrible thing, people don’t realise how their actions can really impact people. However I love how you’ve turned this around into a positive in this post. I agree, there are always good people in the world. Hope you’re OK. Thanks for sharing with #fortheloveofBLOG

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