From personal experience, I found people do not like talking about miscarriage and baby loss. Awareness is so important to encourage women to speak out and seek support. It can be an overwhelmingly sad time with so many emotions. It makes no sense to suffer alone.
This poem was written from my own personal experience,
The Forbidden Topic – A Miscarriage Poem
No-one likes to talk about it,
They say that it’s taboo
When you lose a baby
And the sorrow you go through.
One in four pregnancies
Are lost in this sad way,
So why don’t we talk about it
If it happens every day?
I’ve never been one to be quiet
And keep my feelings to myself.
I refuse to box up my emotions
To be hidden upon a shelf.
It’s nothing to be ashamed of,
I fail to understand
Why it’s such a dirty secret
A conversation that should be banned
6 years have passed since we got the news
We never wanted to hear
And although the pain gets easier
I think of you year on year.
What would have become of you
My little tiny bean?
How could I already love someone
I’d never even seen?
We wanted to know why
But the answers they couldn’t give,
The doctor couldn’t tell us
Why you didn’t live.
They told me “it just happens”
And “sometimes it’s natures way”
Neither of these were a comfort
Or kept my grief at bay.
To me you were so wanted,
To me you were so loved
You were already part of our family
But it seemed it wasn’t enough.
We had our rainbow baby
And another who made three
But I still think about what might have been
The baby we would never see.
And although I never held you
And although we never met
You’re always in my heart
Because a mother doesn’t forget.