From personal experience, I found people do not like talking about miscarriage and baby loss. Awareness is so important to encourage women to speak out and seek support. It can be an overwhelmingly sad time with so many emotions. It makes no sense to suffer alone.
This poem was written from my own personal experience.
No-one likes to talk about it,
They say that it’s taboo
When you lose a baby
And the sorrow you go through.
One in four pregnancies
Are lost in this sad way,
So why don’t we talk about it
If it happens every day?
I’ve never been one to be quiet
And keep my feelings to myself.
I refuse to box up my emotions
To be hidden upon a shelf.
It’s nothing to be ashamed of,
I fail to understand
Why it’s such a dirty secret
A conversation that should be banned
6 years have passed since we got the news
We never wanted to hear
And although the pain gets easier
I think of you year on year.
What would have become of you
My little tiny bean?
How could I already love someone
I’d never even seen?
We wanted to know why
But the answers they couldn’t give,
The doctor couldn’t tell us
Why you didn’t live.
They told me “it just happens”
And “sometimes it’s natures way”
Neither of these were a comfort
Or kept my grief at bay.
To me you were so wanted,
To me you were so loved
You were already part of our family
But it seemed it wasn’t enough.
We had our rainbow baby
And another who made three
But I still think about what might have been
The baby we would never see.
And although I never held you
And although we never met
You’re always in my heart
Because a mother doesn’t forget.
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Beautifully written. A miscarried baby is still your baby and the love you have does not go away. Once again- beautifully written.
Thanks so much.
I can't feel exactly your pain dear since I haven't experienced something like that but I'm really sorry. This happens to my husband's sister a year ago and now she sis expecting a baby and everything goes very well.
Your post is beautiful and you express your feelings in such a wonderful way!
Thank you. Sending lots of positive thoughts to your sister in law.
So beautiful. It is hard to understand why in society so many things are taboo to talk about. So many women are touched by this topic and yet there seems to be a timeline in which you "should get over it", I will never understand how one is ever going to just forget and get over it.
I completely agree. You never do forget. Thank you for your comment.
What a gorgeous post and even though I cannot understand what it's like to suffer a miscarriage - my heart aches for every couple who has to go through it. I'm so-so sorry for your loss. x
Thank you x
Such heartfelt words about such a sad topic. Really sorry this happened to you and thank you for sharing this,Jennifer. It never is easy writing about loss and grief.
Thank you so much.
Beautiful poem, I'm sorry you went through this loss. We lost 15 babies to miscarriage and my second son at full term to stillbirth, I identify with this. xx
Oh gosh, I'm so sorry to read this. I can't imagine what you have been through x
What a heart felt piece, but beautifully written, really touched me :) x
Thank you x
I actually didn't realize the figure for miscarriages was so high and it makes me so sad to think of all the parents who have lost children x
It's awful isn't it? And yet it's still never really talked about.
A very sad topic, yet so beautifully written about!
Thank you x
What a beautiful poem. I know so many people who have gone through a miscarriage and the heartbreak they go through x
Thank you x