Here’s To You Little Bean – Our Miscarriage And Rainbow Baby

The 28th of July is a date that is forever engrained on my mind. On that day in 2010, my sister had her baby. My first niece was welcomed into our family and we were all delighted.

However, July 28th 2010 was also the day we lost our own little bean.

We found out a few days previously that our much wanted second baby no longer had a heartbeat, and the miscarriage was “completed” on 28th of July that year. I’ll never forget that feeling. That almost emptiness I was left with, which was swiftly followed by emotions of grief, anger and then ultimately overwhelming sadness.

But in that grief, my niece was that piece of positivity I needed. Having been through their own sadness, I was delighted for my sister and brother in law. It could have been easy to focus on our own loss on that day, but I remember the genuine feelings of happiness and love I felt when I heard of her arrival. We had our son who obviously still brought fun and laughter into our lives, but there’s that feeling of hope that the birth of a new baby brings. In that moment of darkness, her birth was that little ray of light I needed.

The following year, 28th of July 2011, I was in labour with our rainbow baby. If you’re not familiar with the term, a rainbow baby is the name used for a baby born after a loss. After the storm, comes the rainbow.

Our very own rainbow baby kept us waiting an extra day and our little Ben was born on 29th July 2011. The happiest little boy you ever could meet!

Eight years on from that day in 2010, it is my niece’s birthday. She has turned into a clever, funny, kind little girl and she’ll forever have a special place in my heart. It also means that our little Ben turns seven tomorrow. The eve of his birthday is always bittersweet for me. Amongst the excitement and preparations, I can’t help but take a moment to remember the baby we never met. It’s a humbling reminder of how lucky we are to now have three healthy children. It’s a reminder to never take anything for granted and to give them a little extra squeeze before they go off to bed.

So tomorrow will be all about our little Ben. A day of happiness and celebration.

But tonight I will remember that day in 2010.

Here’s to you little bean.

Rainbow baby



  1. So lovely that the term rainbow baby is used, make everything all that bit extra special. Best wishes through this beautiful and hard time 🙂

  2. I’m so sorry for your loss, what a day of mixed emotions for you. I’m glad that you had your niece to bring about some positivity and how crazy that the following year on the same day you had your rainbow baby

  3. I love the term rainbow baby, it is such a positive step to take. It’s always harder to come to terms with something on a day that every one celebrates

  4. So sorry to hear about your loss but also so glad you had all that love in your heart for your niece. Sending love during this difficult time.

    Katie xoxo

  5. I don’t think you could ever forget the loss of a much wanted child and it’s beautiful that you still feel so greatly attached to Bean even though you went on to successfully have your son. It’s crazy to think who that one date has impacted so much. xx

  6. I’m so sorry for you loss, it must be such a mixed bag of emotions filled with happiness, sadness and grief all at the same time – Great choice for your little boys name by the way – great minds think alike! =]

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